Hi confused well not realy

[rickster]

Hi

Let me introduce myself My name \is Rich recantly my lovely wife and best friend passed away from brain cancer I meet my wife in dubai ten years ago,since she died I have moved to Australia with my work, shortly after moving here I met a girl in all places the shoping center things progresed in the normal way text, phone calls, so I asked her if she would like to come round for a meal, she did and things went great helped along with well an amount of wine next thing we are kissing oh my god what is that, laughing she looks at me and says realy you did not know? no I replied, dose it bother you? to my suprise it did not in fact I was so exited any way ive had an ammazing year or so but she has left and gone home leving me confused as to what im going to do now, I realy want to meet another lady boy not just one night paid for stuff, Im looking for a serious relationship but im unsure how to go about it Ive tried her in perth but its dificult to meet any one thats just not after money for sex, any advice would be good

 

Thanks Rich

 

 

   

[pacman]

Sorry to hear you lost your wife Rich, it's a cruel twist that nothing prepares you for. At least you have bounced back & in a way that would surprise your family & friends. I assume you don't share your new found interest with them. Good luck to you if you do.

 

As to your question I have to tell you it is no different or easier finding a lasting relationship with a ladyboy than it is with a female. What is different is there are 1000+ times less LBs than females so it could be argued that it is that much harder to meet the "one".

 

You were fortunate to meet a girl not working in the escort business. Most of them do & it is not because they chose it as their first choice of career. So from now on you will mostly be dealing with people who are completely motivated by money (when it comes to sleeping with us that is) & if they had money, I can assure you they would not be sleeping with us. Us being older western men as opposed to young Asian boy band types.

 

This is no reason for you to give up your search, you found one, you can find another. But be very careful & keep your guard up because the hard ones are always going to put pecuniary concerns before romantic concerns. As the old saying goes: the love lasts as long as the money does. And if life becomes too boring (and they get easily bored), they will up & leave anyway.

 

I am not trying to be mean, I think your question is shared by many others, but it does give me the chance to remind you & others that sweet words of endearment that spill from the mouth of an ambitious LB mean absolutely nothing. They are the currency they exchange for anything you indulge them with. Cash or gifts. Yes, there are many happy LB/farang relationships, love can triumph but so many relationships don't survive. And it wasn't because the guy didn't measure up, some of these girls were given a fortune by their partner. Of course, too much money & they can afford to live the life they want.

 

There are those guys who have boasted that "our relationship is different" only to come crashing down to earth when they were kicked to the curb because what they wanted & what their partner wanted were two different things. They guy thought he was getting a soulmate for life, she saw a chance to get out of the rat race. Which they usually return to. Go figure.

 

Rich, stick to the girls you meet for a night & take the chance when something longer is offered. Enjoy the time you have together & let tomorrow take care of itself. Treating each new girl as the possible one will be costly both in money & your sanity. Westerners new to the Asian scene are not prepared for the game the girls play & you'll finish up another statistic sooner than you know. We all wish you luck of course, it does happen but your chances of finding love rather than a gold-digger are not great. 

[guydesavoy]

Well put Paccie.

 

Welcome Rich. You could try the LB dating sites (some with Australian sections). The PI/Thai based ones can be hit and miss (in terms of sorting out the gold-diggers from the genuine ones), but you've got to be in it to win it.. You may have more luck finding a genuine one if she is already based in Oz.

 

Good luck and welcome again to our little community. 

[Surin Nix]

Well said Pacman.

It's nice to see comments which allow at least the possibility of finding love, which Rich is obviously seeking. All too often, these types of posts conclude with the notion that "no way, no how" can any relationship with an LB progress to anything beyond the mercenary level.

I used to dream of (originally) finding love with a Thai gg, when I began making journies to LOS 3 years ago. I am now cured of that notion, especially when it comes to meeting a girl in the P4P meccas of Pattaya and Patong. Jimbo introduced me to the book "Private Dancer", and its pages I saw clearly how I too was beginning to be played for sponsorship, when that was definately not what I was looking for. Plus, I was fortunate to meet several guys along the way who'd walked the sponsorship road.

I got the message: don't do it. Never have....but one angel-faced, adorable Issan farm-girl almost had me convinced in 2009...the first time the game was being played on me in earnest.

But back to Rich. I'd say Rich that Pacman's advice is solid. Go after what you seek, but learn to know the difference between "the game", which is a money-game in which you can easily find yourself an unwitting participant....and the real thing.

The "real thing" always takes time. ...and it's unlikely in the P4P destinations (though, good times there ARE easy to find and totally worth it!).

[pacman]

Well put Paccie.

 

 

Well said Pacman.

 

Thanks Guy, thanks Surin, nice of you to comment. The OP hasn't returned but nothing is lost, my remarks apply to anyone looking for a LTR.