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    BDSM

    I could not vote for any of the options. Having engaged in BDSM with ladyboys over the last 8 years, those options do not fit. (FYI- I tend to be on the M side of things. I am not disposed to physically hurting anyone.) The primary attraction of relinquishing control to my partners is that I get to escape 50+ years of being an Alpha male, who is expected to lead, achieve, and be in control. This does not make me a slave or a sissy. Trust me. Another attraction is the challenge. I no longer engage in the adrenaline-based sports (whitewater kayaking, sky diving, scuba diving,...) that I enjoyed as a youth. BDSM gives me an opportunity to challenge myself to see how far I can take it. It helps me develop greater mental and physical discipline, while simultaneously flooding my body with endorphins and andrenaline. I am certain that there is a Freudian aspect to it too, something from my childhood left unresolved. BFD. Enough said. Ultimately, my attitude is who cares. I know who I am and what I am capable of in Life and the BDSM game is a very small part of my life. More importantly, I have had long term relationships with women that did not involve BDSM. But the BDSM relationship requires an incredible amount of trust and, in my opinion, it is actually one of the most intimate and trusting relationships that one can have. It was interesting that many of the Filipina ladyboys that I discussed this with before meeting with them, thought I was exaggerating and fantasizing. But I have seen more of them advertising as BDSM experts. Most are not, and that makes them both dangerous and puts them in danger with those that hire them for that purpose. In contrast, there are some Filipina's who have embraced it. Some truly like hurting another human being while others have learned that it is a game and, at least to me, it is NOT about incapacitating or injuring someone. It is about trust and communications. And adventure!!
  2. I have been wrestling with he initial premise of this forum late. My conclusion is that I trust her word 99% of the time and don't trust it 1%. Seems like a lot of trust, but the emotional consequences of that 1% have a disproportionate impact on my emotional response. So even though she is mature and not likely to find another western gentleman who is respectful and reasonably generous with her family, I can get very upset by the trust-not trust dilemma with my focus on the not-trust 1%. She and I had been in a committed relationship for almost 4 years, although we lived about 10000 kms apart and saw each other 4 times a year. She is a 41 year old Filipina ladyboy with a dynamite body, a lovely smile, and a very adventuresome spirit. We met when she was an escort and twice during our 4 years together she has placed ads online to attract business because the allowance that I was sending her was insufficient to meet her financial needs. (She can still turn heads and attract clients if she wants.) Interesting side note: I discovered her first ad because her client posted photos on his Facebook account and they showed up on the Mixed Nuts Facebook page that he and I were both connected to. I discovered the second ad, two years later, when another Manila ladyboy that I knew, ratted her out. No honor amongst ...... But I digress. The reality in my situation was that she is very devoted to the welfare of her family. If she gets money from any source, she rarely spends it on herself. And because her family is poor, this is almost a survival issue. I know that she does not enjoy being an escort, but both she and her ladyboy sister will do it in order to fulfill their responsibilities to their family. The Lesson: What the relationship led me to conclude is that if we enter into committed relationships with ladyboys, and more specifically those who were/are escorts, we are going to have lots of doubts. If we don't, I think we are being foolish and unrealistic. Or, we are managing our expectations so as not to be hurt or surprised. But these ladyboys are all human beings and many of them that I have met are struggling economically with no other career opportunities. They are human beings struggling to survive. As one who worships at the altars of Charles Darwin and Adam Smith, I have to respect that, regardless of how much it might distress me. If her choice is between no food on the table because of concerns about my emotional state, versus food on the table because she fucked one of you miscreants, she better take you and she better tell me the juicy details. Just be nice and respectful to that very special human being.
  3. Doesn't being with a ladyboy negate the need for the strap-on?
  4. In case anyone is still interested in the topic, fun from Manila:
  5. Lost track of this lady in Makati. She was very accommodating and adventuresome. She was also a sweetheart!!! If you have seen her recently, please let me know.
  6. I will be in Pasay next week (Aug 2-6) with my ladyboy gf. Any gentlemen out there interested in getting together. She is hoping for a threesome with her in the middle!!
  7. What, no toothbrush and mouthwash?? ;-) I come from a background that requires I shower 3 times a day when I am in Manila, and that is when I don't leave the hotel room. That's why I love Puerto Galera with its beaches and ocean. I know that there are significant cultural differences around the globe about personal hygiene, but common sense suggests that if I want a "fresh" companion, I should be, too. Whatever happened to common sense and the Golden Rule?
  8. Good attitude and advice to treat them like friends (and human beings). The one in the attached photos told me that I was the first client that treated her with respect. That got me along ways..... She went by "Sharky" but I lost track of her. She is "mature" and adventuresome and was operating out of Makati.
  9. Recently had a great trip visiting this lady in Manila, but she dropped her ad on TS4Rent (Terica), and I lost her contact info. Anyone seen her? Know how to find her? Incredibly versatile and sexy.
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